Finding the Flip Side

We had big plans for our 10 year meet-a-versary. There was to be wining, dining and even a pair of tickets for Cirque du Soleil.  But then this happened. Not quite what either of us had in mind.

Finding the flip sideFriday night’s alright – but not when it’s in Emergency

There are a few things that I have a belly aching fear of; mice, cockroaches, home invasions, to name but a few, but right up there at the top is something happening to David.

And then something happened to David. To my surprise, I didn’t crumble like a cookie, instead I rose like a CWA prize winning sponge. And you know why? Because I found the flip side. One’s imagination can often lead one astray at times like this, thinking of the worst case scenarios, but instead I prefer to channel my energies into finding the flip side. I won’t lie, some flip sides are a bit trickier to find than others but you’ll find them in the end. You might just have to look a bit harder.

I spent a lot of time looking for the flip side this weekend and here’s how I found it.

We spent our meet-a-versary in the Emergency Department.

The Flip Side?  It’s a brand new state of the art Emergency Department with hot doctors and kind nurses.

Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you, Exhibit A. (I left my phone charger in the ER and when I went back for it, I found the nurse, packaging it up for me like so!) Doesn’t everyone like their nurses well qualified, big hearted and with a sense of humour?

Finding the flip sideThank you Ed!

David had to stay in hospital all weekend and he’s still there.

The Flip Side? It’s exactly where he needs to be to get the care, attention and tests that he needs. He couldn’t be in better hands. If he had come home, I’d have been constantly standing over him and prodding him to check that he was still alive. And that would so not be cool.

The doctors think  he may have had a mini stroke. That’s not good.

The Flip Side? It’s not good but it’s much better than having a big stroke, right?

We’re won’t really know what’s happening until he has an MRI.

The Flip Side?  He’s already had a CT scan which ruled out some super serious problems.

Finding the Flip SideThe paparazzi perils of having a wife who is a blogger

Seeing someone you love in hospital sucks.

The Flip Side? We’ve spent a lot of time in this hospital in recent years so we’ve totally gotten with the system. We have bucketloads of empathy for each other now that the boot is on the other foot. (Just for the record, I prefer to be the patient, much less stressful!)

I’ve been up and down to the hospital like a yoyo.

The Flip Side? Lucky for us, it’s right around the corner and thank heavens, for long visiting hours and nurses who don’t mind you visiting outside of them. We’ve had lots of “quality” time together.

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Happy Meetaversary!

This is very stressful. (So everyone keeps on telling me.)

The Flip Side? I have to keep my own counsel, keep cool and keep everything in perspective. Things aren’t great but they could be a lot worse. The years I spent in therapy have served me well. I am thinking about the best possible outcome. It’s all about the self talk. And stepping away from the computer and steering clear of good old Dr Google. I’ve also been doing a lot of the things I love like eating (there is a direct correlation to my stress levels and the amount of chocolate that I eat,) baking (see below,) blogging (here I am “waves”) and exercising (I’ve been setting a lot of  endorphins free.)

I had to stay home alone.

The Flip Side? I’m not really alone. I have Julius the monkey to keep David’s side of the bed warm.

Finding the Flip Side

Our friends and family are awesome and have supported us by phone, skype and in person.  And don’t get me started on my online friends! David and I have been smothered in virtual hugs, basked in online love and on the receiving end of so much good juju and positive vibes from my friends on the interwebs, (namely Facebook and Instagram.) I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Thank you for my friends. And of course, rellos that rock.

Life has thrown us  a huge curveball.

The Flip Side? When life throws you a curveball, you can either drop it or catch it. I prefer to catch it where possible, and then run with it.  Even if I don’t know where I’m running to.  I could drive myself nuts second guessing the situation and making predictions but that would be futile. Sometimes, I have to throw my hands up, work with what I know, accept what I don’t and go with the flow. Swimming against the tide is just a waste of energy.

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Wheelies!

This is so not what I planned. Plans are good. Until they go wrong.

The Flip Side? Anniversaries are all about being together, right? Well, David and I have spent a lot of time together this weekend. Just the two of us (and a heart rate machine.) As a bonus, he’s had his first ride in a wheelchair (it turns out I’m not such a bad driver after all,) and I’ve never had  a better reason to bake. Those nurses are hungry and more to the point, they’re worth it. My new motto is “keep calm and bake on.”

Finding the Flip Side  BakingButterscotch Cookies – all the noms!

But mostly, this has taught me to enjoy life and cherish every moment because you never know what’s going to happen next. My mum is always saying to me “your life can change in 20 seconds flat’  and you know mother is always right, right?! Enjoy the moment, even the el crappo ones, and keep looking for the flip side.

So tell me, where did you find the flip side today?

  • Lucy @ Bake Play Smile

    Love your keep calm and bake on motto! And those cookies look amazing. You guys are very lucky to have each other! Unfortunately life doesn’t care what plans we make, does it! Thinking of you guys today and hoping the MRI goes well. Sending all my love to you both xxx

    • We are lucky, aren’t we?! But you’re right, life is so inconsiderate sometimes, why can’t it just go according to plan?! Didn’t it get the memo?! If nothing else, it’s these bumps in the road that make life a little more interesting, and make us a little more grateful!

  • Sam, I’m thinking of you and David! Much love xx

  • Oh gosh. I have been thinking of you all weekend. I love your Flip Side thinking. You are such a sweet person.

    I wish I could get some dumplings, make you some fudge and just hangout with you and Julius and make the time easier.

    Sending lots of love your way. xxx

    • Thank you, lovely! I wish we could hang out too; friends, fudge and dumpling sound like a happiness trifecta!

  • Goodness, Sam! I am sorry that you all are having to experience this, but you have such a lovely attitude. I think many times, that is what makes all the difference. We’ll be keeping y’all in our thoughts.

    • Thanks Jen, experience has taught me that a positive mindset makes the most difficult situation easier to bear. I’ve tried my theory, I’ve tested my theory and it works every time! 🙂

  • Aw darling Sam, I wish i could be there to support you and give you a big hug. I hope you get good answers today. Who said she couldn’t bake cookies – only fudge ?

    Have you got the recipe ?

    • Thanks lovely! The link to the recipe is under the photograph. The nurses gave them the thumbs up, I’m awaiting their verdict on the mango muffins I served up today 🙂

  • Lady, I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again- you are just amazeballs. Truly. Takes a lot of gumption to be able to see the flip side, and you flip it like a pro! I feel brighter just reading anything you write- even dealing with something uber stressful and scary as you have had to deal with all weekend. It’s onwards and upwards from here, crossing fingers and toes that David is home asap and sending all my good vibes your way for today’s outcome!! xx

    • Well, whatever the outcome, I’m sure I’ll find a flip side! Thank you for all your support this weekend, you’re a legend!

  • Love your way of thinking. It can be good therapy thinking on the flipside. I hope you get to celebrate the way you would like to when hubby has that all clear. I hope all is well and he is back on his feet soon feeling better. V x

    • Thank you! I find looking on the flip side to be much more productive and a whole lot healthier than filling my head with dark thoughts. And yes, you’re right having a belated celebration will give us something to look forward to!

  • Nat Smith

    Sam, lovely, you are freaking awesome! Your attitude is seriously amazing. I’ve been thinking of you and David all weekend. Hoping the MRI goes well. Sending more positive vibes and all my love. xx

  • Sam have been thinking of you both all weekend and think that you are amazing. I love that you are finding the flip side and baking through it. Loving the wheelie photo in that you can both smile through this too. Lots of positive vibes across the bridge to you both. x

    • Oh, that’s so sweet Vicki. Baking makes everything better. Those nurses are amazing – I haven’t had the opportunity to feed such enthusiastic eaters for quite some time! As horrible as it’s been, we’ve had a lot of laughs. xx

  • Even when I was ill, I baked ahead for the nurses. They do such amazing work. David’s in a designated stroke ward and they are all so awesome. It’s the least I can do. I am LOVING those virtual french lemon pies. Please keep them coming and thank you so much for your support, it really means a lot to me xx

  • You guys are the best team ever – you really do walk your talk. Fingers crossed you got some good news today and crap hospital food is not on the menu for the rest of the week x

    • Thanks Nancy. Even if he’s still on the ward, there will be no hospital food eaten under my watch. Meals-on-legs all the way! xx

  • Sarah Bennett

    With love, a positive attitude and baking you can deal with anything! Thinking of you both Sarah xxxx

  • Sam Parrish

    Oh Sam, you are amazing . Not many folk could stay as calm and positive as you . We know there are flip sides but at a time of stress I think we forget , it’s just incredible what you’ve been through and how you stay so positive . I feel truly speechless at your bravery . I’m so proud of you . sending lots of good health to David , wishing him a speedy recovery . And a very true comment about cherishing every moment , something we forget to do .
    love you and speak soon . xxx
    Sam .xxx

  • You’re so right. Miss you guy heaps and love you lots xx

  • Love your positivity Sam! That pic of David and you doing wheelies is one for the fridge! x

    • Thanks Stephanie! I really believe that if I think positive, then positive things will happen or failing that, at least I can take positive action. And yeah, the wheelchair wheelies pic is one of our finest!

  • You are just gold lovely lady, I hope all is ok, sending a big fat kiss via web world.You’re mum is so right… aren’t they always? I love your positive attitude, cheers lovely lady. x

  • So happy that you have BOTH come through this with a smile on your faces. Your attitude is amazing 🙂

  • You have an amazing attitude, Sam! Blessing our amazing doctors and nurses, hey? Biggest hugs to you sweetie xx

    • I have so much gratitude for all those doctors and nurses. Without them, I would have a very different story to tell! Apart from the immense relief, I just feel very, very thankful. Hugs coming right back at ya xx

  • You are a very clever awesome creature. I’m glad to hear it was *just* a minor stroke. Regardless, you are doing terribly well to stick to the positive track (or roll along the positive track, my metaphors are terrible. Thank gosh we live in Australia where medical care is about as good as it gets.

    • Thanks for dropping by Nicole. Yes, we are so grateful we live in Australia, right now, and so grateful that we live where we do in Australia, right round the corner from a shiny, new hospital with doctors that are eye candy and nurses with a sense of humour and so grateful that the stroke, was so minor, I know it’s bad, but really it could have been so much worse. A little bit of positvity goes a long way!

  • You truly are an inspiring lady Sam. Love how you’ve turned things around to look at them from the flip side. Hope the tests ahead give you kind results. x

    • Thanks for dropping by, Danielle. Well, experience has taught me better to look on the flip side than the dark side. Unless you’re Darth Vadar 🙂 Finding the flip side could be my life’s work!

  • I just LOVE LOVE your attitude. All those flip sides really made me smile. I do hope David is on the mend and back home very soon. Happy anniversary xxx

    • I had so much fun looking for the flip side! David is back home and on the mend which is winning all round! What a difference a week makes! xx

  • 26 Years & Counting

    I hope all the tests come back with clear and good answers! I’ve spent a lot of time in doctors and at hospitals with my husband in recent years and it drags – I try to make as many jokes as possible to distract me from how much I hate being in places like that!

    • The tests said a stroke but no reason why. On the flip side, the tests show a healthy heart and a healthy brain which is pretty good to be going on with. We’ve spent a lot of time in hospitals and at doctors in recent years, but always for me, so although the boot is on the other foot, at least we are dab hands at making light of a heavy situation. See, there’s always a flip side 🙂

  • Oh you incredible woman you… your positivity is seriously so inspiring. But how scary for you… that is NOT how you do anniversaries chick! I hope you get some answers soon and that the news is all good news for David so that you can redo that anniversary the right way as soon as possible. Much much love to you hun xx

    • You’re totally right, that is so NOT the way to spend an anniversary. I hope it’s the first and the last one we ever spend in hospital. David’s home now which is a big improvement and he’s marching along the road to recovery. It’s all good!