She’s So Inspiring – Sonia Stackhouse

She's so inspiringMy life has been touched by some uber amazing women whose passion for life and the way they  choose to live it have really inspired me. Some are bloggers, some are not, their lives are all different and  they are all special. I feel honoured and privileged that they are sharing their stories and sprinkling a little bit of their awesome right here. May you be wom-inspired!

Meet Sonia Stackhouse.

Meeting Sonia is to love her, whether it’s online or in real life.  She’s funny as she is open, she’s warm as she is honest, and she’s smart as she is creative. I love the online space she has created on her blog  and I’m so excited her about her new real life venture Down That Little Lane Workshops.   Sonia isn’t just a woman who dreams, she’s a woman who dreams and makes them come true.

She's So Inspiring - Sonia Stackhouse

Tell us a bit about yourself.

I’m Sonia, an OCD, somewhat neurotic and totally clumsy mother of 3 boys and the wife of a man who deserves a medal for his patience in dealing with me and the chaos I bring to the party. 

I live on the Northern Beaches of Sydney where I spend my days working, juggling kids and constantly redecorating our home. Once upon a time I was a corporate girl who travelled the country doing important grown up stuff, but these days, thanks to what I like to term the most fabulous midlife crisis ever, I work with some of my best friends doing things that truly make me happy. I have a social media Management and brand development business, I write at Life Love and Hiccups and I freelance write for others too.

I am a partner in a freshly  launched businesses with friends – one creative based and one business mentoring based and I am also working on the release of my ten year old son’s first book – a kind of self help story about dealing with anxiety – written by a kid for a kid. Did I mention I have problems sitting still for any periods of time?!

She's So Inspiring - Sonia Stackhouse

Tell us 3 things you are and 3 things you’re not. 

I am an obsessive worrier, an organised control freak and a very gifted over thinker.

I am not very patient, not very co-ordinated most definitely not someone who is very good at saying no.

Complete this sentence, ____________________  changed my life. How and why?

As cliché as it sounds, having children changed my life. They gave me a sense of purpose that I always felt I was lacking, they taught me to love unconditionally, that life is precious and that sanity is totally overrated.

She's So Inspiring - Sonia Stackhouse

What has been life’s greatest lesson?

Wow, I have learned many a great lessons in my life to date and I know that many more lay ahead.

It’s hard to narrow it down to just one so I’m going to cheat if that’s OK and throw a couple out there.

I have learned that a life lived with regrets is a life wasted. You have to say what you want to say and what you need to say before the moment passes or before it’s too late.

Grudges are extra baggage you really don’t need, let them go as they serve no purpose other than weighing you down.

We simply must embrace the hiccups in life… you know the things that go wrong or don’t go exactly to plan. Laugh at those mistakes because in hindsight you’ll look back and realise that often the mistakes are the most fun.

Oh and one more lesson – when they tell you to do your pelvic floor exercises when you are pregnant, do them cause it’s for a very good reason.

What is your biggest achievement?

Biggest achievement? That’s easy – Walking when they said I would never walk again.

She's So Inspiring - Sonia Stackhouse

What has been your toughest obstacle and how have you overcome it?

Without a doubt depression has been the biggest, toughest and ugliest obstacle that I have had to overcome.

I wouldn’t say that I have conquered it – you know stood on the top of it and stuck a flag in and raised my fist to the sky in a triumphant salute -but I have learned to find my way around it and for now it no longer stands in my way.

Viktor Frankl says “Those who have a ‘why’ to live, can bear with almost any ‘how.” Everyone needs a purpose, what’s yours?

Honestly, I am not really sure what my purpose is in life just yet. I mean obviously I am a mother so my priority is to stand by my husband’s side and together with him love, protect and guide our children.

As for any one purpose? I don’t know just yet, I am having a whole lot of fun trying to figuring it all out though and that’s kind of all that matters right?!

What are your words to live by?

Leap and the net will appear. It has been proven time and time again and has taught me to trust in both myself and the universe.

She's So Inspiring - Sonia Stackhouse

If you could have any mentor, alive or dead, who would you choose and why?

I wouldn’t mind spending some time with Eckhart Tolle. I mean any dude who hits rock bottom and then wakes up one day to find himself enlightened is pretty awe inspiring don’t you think?

I figure he could teach me a thing or two about living a more peaceful life within myself. I have read a lot of books over the years about mindfulness and harnessing the power of our mind etc, and I found those kinds of books particularly helpful when I was trying to fight my way out of my depressive fog. There was something about his books that cut through all the bullshit, opened my eyes and really hit the spot for me.

I still have so much to learn and so far to go before I would say I am mentally and spiritually where I am meant to be so having Eckhart on my team certainly wouldn’t go astray.

If you could play hookie for a day what would be on your list to do?

Can I go anywhere to play hooky?

If so, I would be on a plane headed to Bali where I would check myself into a wellbeing retreat in Ubud.

If I had to stay local – then a long lazy lunch with my girlfriends, a bottle or two of champagne and a whole lotta laughing would do me just fine thank you very much.

She's So Inspiring - Sonia Stackhouse

You give so much to others, what do you do to take care of yourself?

If I am totally honest and not meaning at all to sound like a martyr or anything, I don’t take care of myself as well as I should.

I need to sleep more, exercise more, drink less, eat healthier and quit beating myself up all the time and I probably should be meditating or something too.

Busy? Slack? Lazy? Yep probably all of those and more, though I know I really need to get my act together, and I will… I promise I will.

The one thing I do always do to take care of myself is I get my bits checked. You know like down there, up there and back there – all of those bits, the bits that women far too often forget or put off getting checked.

A few scares along the way have made me very aware of the importance of making those uncomfortable appointments. At the end of the day – my family need me, so why risk not being here for them for the sake of a little embarrassment or discomfort.

Check yo bits ladies! OK?!

She's So Inspiring - Sonia Stackhouse

Thank you for sharing, Sonia!

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  • Wow, what a busy lady! And a ten year old writing books? Sonia you’re doing a lot right as a mum judging by that alone! Love the words to live by too 🙂

  • LydiaCLee

    Leap and the net will appear – nice.

  • Sonia is my hero (and also my twin – I’m a gifted worrier and over thinker too). You’re right, Sammie. To know her is to love her. She is such a positive force in the blogging community and generous with her knowledge. Life love and hiccups was one of the first blogs I ever followed a couple of years ago and I still can’t live without it now 🙂 x

    • You just made me smile from ear to ear – thank you so much my fellow soul mate. we worriers stick together 😉 xx

    • I’m another member of the gifted worriers and over thinkers club too! She just oozes good vibes, doesn’t she?!

  • Jenni from styling curvy

    Firstly gimmee that bike! GAH 🙂 I’ve only discovered Sonia fairly recently (sooo many bloggers) and I gotta say a coffee with her is something I would very much like to have. This interview has given me more insight and really, what’s not to like? ‘Leap and the net will appear”…this is on the back of my business cards!…even more reason for that coffee! Thanks again Sam for a wonderful insight into an awesome human xxx

    • You can come and take that bike for a spin ANY time you like at all. I really hope we do get to have that coffee one day hun as I have a feeling you and I could spend a few glorious hours chewing each other’s ears off. thank you for your beautiful comment hun and I love that we share a love of that quote xx

    • That quote is a cracker and certainly, words to live by. Sonia really is an incredible human being. I’m so pleased our paths crossed x

  • Love me some Sonia! Such a lovely person (although haven’t been able to meet her in person), especially towards the blogging community x

  • Love Sonia! I started writing down my daughter’s stories after being inspired by Sonia’s son!

    • Oh hun I cannot tell you how happy that makes me. I cant wait to tell Sam – he will be so chuffed xx

      • Her latest story is about a dog who climbs trees and eats monkeys (yes eats them!) And then helps her clean her room. Ask Sam if he thinks it has merit. P.s. she’s 3.5 😉

  • Hello Sonia!! What a lovely and inspiring lady indeed. Something about this line “…I am a mother so my priority is to stand by my husband’s side and together with him love, protect and guide our children.” did something for me today. I think it must be the Mr being home. Off to brush off my Eckhart Tolle books. This is such a brilliant series Sammie. x

    • Ohhhhh lovely girl – enjoy that time with your gorgeous Mr. Don’t you just love Eckhart Tolle – I read and reread over and over again. Much love to you chick xx

    • Enjoy the Mister in the house! I am loving this series sick, the best bloggy thing that I’ve done by far xx

  • I love Sonia. What a freaking power woman. I love the quote Leap and the net will appear. It doesn’t matter what happens to her, she is always positive… but has a few f*** words in between. This post makes me want to delve more into her blog now. I only discovered Sonia through Weekend Rewind… which I generally forget to link up to each weekend.

    • haha there are plenty of F*** words in between hun, trust me 🙂 but then I figure you have to laugh at yourself and life.. you know get in there before anyone else laugh at me. Thank you lovely xx

    • Sonia really is a power woman and how good is that quote. I discovered Sonia’s blog relatively recently, but in this case, it’s totally better late than never! Sonia is like the King Midas of blogging, every thing she writes is pure gold!

  • Me too, I love Sonia, awesome juggler, and darn top chick. Good luck with the launch tomorrow Son. Leap and the net will appear… definitely. Have a fab weekend Sammie. x

  • Sonia means a lot to me too, she’s inspiring in too many ways to list here!!! Loved this sneak peek into her head!!! xx

  • Oh I love this lady! She really is so inspiring as a mumma, business woman and just the loveliest most supportive blogger in all of blog land! Cannot wait to meet you Son. xx

  • Oh Sonia, you are a woman after my own heart. Love this interview, made me all smiley on the inside. You’re fabulous just as you are 🙂

  • Natalie @ Our Parallel Connect

    I love this. Sonia I have read a story about you the other day and I feel like we are friends. Thanks again Sam for sharing an inspiring woman

    • Oh Natalie – thank you so much and I hope we get to meet in person one day and take that friendship to the next level xx

    • I always feel like a visit to Sonia’s blog, is like a catch up with a good friend! She’s a keeper!

  • What a woman! So filled with positivity, kindness and love. Thanks Sam.

  • “Leap and the net will appear” – what a great quote to live life by. Love Sonia’s blog and she sounds like a fabulous person to boot!

    • Ohh thank you Emma. I trust in that quote with every bit of my being xx

    • This is a woman who oozes fabulous! One of my bloggy friends (thank you, Nancy!) sent me this quote when I quit my job earlier this year, and they’ve become words to live by. That Sonia, she’s a wise woman! x

  • You beautiful beautiful woman. Have I told you how much I adore you lately… well I do and get ready for a mega hug on Thursday. Thank you so much for having me on your blog today my friend, I feel so beyond honoured and humbled that you asked me. Mwah xxx

    • I’m so honoured and humbled that you agreed to play along. Totes having a fangirl moment. You’re just the bestest – big hugs (and fudge) coming your way xx

  • I’m with Renee and Shannon. Sonia is one of the most friendliest, encouraging, supportive bloggers in cyberspace and I love her to PIECES! My blog crush from the beginning to the end of time. She truly epitomises what it is to be inspiring, real and genuine. Sammie, these would have to be the best interview questions I think I have ever seen in a series and one of the best series out there. Congratulations to you and thank you for bringing us lovely souls such as Sonia week after week. Would def make a great book. 🙂 Xx

    • Oh, you’re such a treasure, Sandra! I agree with you, Renee and Sharon, Sonia is a blogging gem and I love her to bits! Thank you for your beautiful words, I have to admit, I think seeing this series come to life, has to be one of the bestest bloggy things so far!

  • You’ve reminded me that I need to go check my bits! Awesome interview. How amazing that your son has written at such a young age. Leap and the net will appear. We can all learn from that. And I soooo want that bike. Thanks for sharing lovelies! x

  • Tash from Gift Grapevine

    So much loveliness right there! I love Sonia’s blog. Her posts are warm, friendly, positive, relatable and damn funny. I am amazed at how much she fits into her life and seeing her chase her dreams is certainly inspiring. I hope to make it over east one day to visit the DTLL workshop, drool over all the beautiful products and displays and share a coping cordial or two with her! Thanks Sammie for yet another inspiring lady xx

  • Sammie, I am really enjoying this series, great work mate! Sonia has such an amazing story, and a fellow uggy lover(so I am told)! I am so dying to meet her in person too!

    • Thanks, Steph! I’m loving this series too, I’d been dreaming about it for so long, it’s such a joy to see it come to life. Sonia’s story is amazing, isn’t it, and she has a personality to match! I hope it won’t be too long before you’re h-ugging IRL!

  • I am thinking shit I want that woman on my team.. she rocks. Then I remember oh yeah she IS on my team! Never been prouder to call someone my best mate. Sonia is all that and then some..

  • I felt exhausted just reading what Sonia’s got on the go at any time. Some women just rock and you seem to have found them all in this series. I love popping by every Friday to read about inspiring women.

    • Sonia really is all kinds of awesome…. and busy. By the by, every time I see that quote, I think of you! Thank you for sharing it with me when I needed it most!

  • I just love Sonia such a warm, wonderful & inspiring lady. I’m always in awe of how much she gives to others and I’m so inspired by her new venture. I really hope to meet her IRL soon another great interview Sammie x

    • Sonia is so generous and gives so much of herself to others both on and off line. I love how she has chases down her dreams and makes them come true – inspiring stuff!

  • What a great interview Sam, Sonia is just amazing! I’m a bit of a ‘silent stalker’ of her blog and love the honesty, love and humour she shares with us in every single post. As a fellow over thinker and worrier, she was a huge inspiration to me as well when making the decision to leave work and the phrase ‘Leap and the net will appear’ really is true x

  • Oh Sonia you are so fabulous! I love reading your blog and your humour and chaos you call life! 🙂 A force to be reckoned with with your new business venture I think – all that passion and love you have to give and invest is going to do amazing things! Wish I was on the northern beaches to drop by x

    • Sonia is absolutely fabulous – I love how she reaches for the stars and grabs them with both hands! As for the new venture, I can totally feel the force!

  • Sonia is the bomb! An absolute inspiration, and an all round fabulous person, who inspires me all the time. xxx

  • Such a great interview Sammie. Sonia is just lovely and she shouldn’t be cliche about being a Mum, because it honestly does change a person. And it is most definitely my favourite job in the world.

  • Love this woman! Sonia has a wonderful way of making everyone special. Even us nervous newbie bloggers that haven’t a clue what we’re doing, she’ll see us lost in a crowd and encourage us along with her beaming warm smile. She inspires us all so much! Just love hearing about the new business dream coming to fruition with her besties! All her boys must be very proud indeed. Another top story Sam xx

    • She’s just amazing, isn’t she? Her generosity and big heartedness know no bounds. She certainly had me at hello! xx

  • Great questions that give a wonderful insight into the amazing Sonia, who sounds more and more wonderful with everything I read about and/or by her! And now we have a place where we can track her down to say hi in person, lol! (I’m not a stalker, I promise…)

  • Hugzilla

    Love, love, love this! Sonia sounds a little bit woo like me too! Thank you so much for this lovely little insight into her world. I am still tripping out about the walking thing. Wow. That says a lot about someone’s character.

    • Maybe we’re all a little bit woo. But imagine what a wonderful world it would be if we were all a little like Sonia! x

  • She really, really, really is inspiring. One of my favourites ever. x

  • Well this was an awesome one Sammie! Who doesn’t love Sonia? She’s one of those surprisingly generous and supportive people who treat everyone like they’re special. I just know we’d be friends if we ever got the chance to meet. Just love her!

    • There’s nothing not to love about Sonia, is there? She has to be one of the kindest, most generous and most big hearted people that ever graced the interwebs. I am totes a member of her fan club!

  • Another awesome interview! I love a good “Leap of Faith” story!!

  • A great post Sammie. I love Sonia. I have yet to meet her face to face, (I hope to soon) but she has been a great support for me since starting this blogging caper. She definitely is inspiring.

    • Sonia is just as lovely in real life as she is online, only lovelier! She really is a shining light in the blogosphere.