She’s So Inspiring – Deb Dane

She's so inspiring

My life has been touched by some uber amazing women whose passion for life and the way they  choose to live it have really inspired me. Some are bloggers, some are not, their lives are all different and  they are all special. I feel honoured and privileged that they are sharing their stories and sprinkling a little bit of their awesome right here. May you be wom-inspired!

Meet Deb Dane.

I’ve been following Deb on Instagram for a while and love how she follows her heart. She’s  super creative, open, honest and real and she chases down her dreams. I love that. She also has a real neat New York accent. I got to meet her in real life last week at Problogger and she is as awesome offline as she is on, only more awesome. Unfortunately, we were too busy hugging to take a photo, but there’s always a next time, right? If you do one thing this week, check out her notes to self on Instagram, they’re just the best!  I’m so honoured that she’s taking part in this series because she’s so inspiring.

She's So Inspiring - Deb Dane

Tell us a bit about yourself.

I am a 43 year old born-again artist! I honestly feel reborn since reconnecting to my creative side about 2 1/2-3 years ago. It was an awakening on every level.

I am a mother to tween girls and have been home with them for the past 11 1/2 years.

Once I found my way back to creativity I started having clear visions of things I wanted to make and sell related to the writing I had been doing on my blog. It is all related to living with intention and being authentic; loving and accepting yourself as you are and trusting your own inner guidance system.

I am launching my first handmade accessories range in a few months in an online shop.

She's So Inspiring - Deb Dane

Tell us 3 things you are and 3 things you’re not. 

I am…
In love with colour
Passionate about reading- i could happily laze in bed with books forever
Constantly in my head and wrestle with my own mind
I am not…
Okay with discrimination, domination or exclusion (we are all connected!)
A lover of kitchen duties
A cleaning whizz (mess and me are comfortable mates)

Complete this sentence, ____________________  changed my life. How and why?

The death of my father when I was 14 changed my life. This is a pivotal moment that was so sudden and unexpected it changed the course of my life. I often feel like Gwyneth Paltrow in Sliding Doors and wonder what my other life might have been like.
Instead this one followed the path of pain and fear and anxiety.
I learned that life can change in an instant so I choose to live my life now- I abandoned plans to be a lawyer and went traveling and met my husband and have lived thousands of miles from “home” for 20+ years. We make choices based on the now with little future planning or savings. I don’t want to die having never lived. I would rather die broke and full of a lifetime of memories and adventures than to die with money in the bank and me locked up in the safety of a net of my own making.
I have real fears around the idea of losing my husband – as he nears my father’s age that seems to be an issue I have to face head on. When he reaches the age (49) my younger daughter will also reach my age (14) and the parallel freaks me out a little.

What has been life’s greatest lesson?

Feel the fear and do it anyway- that is what I am living right now.  After having kids I admit I lost my sense of real adventure as anxiety took over- wanting to keep them safe, do the “right thing”- and now I am learning that fear will always appear, but the lesson is to not let it stop you from living the life you imagine for yourself.

She's So Inspiring - Deb Dane

What is your biggest achievement?

I do think launching my shop will be my greatest achievement regardless of the outcome because this is all me standing on my own two feet, taking something from my head and learning the skills to bring it to life. Even though I have my husband’s support this is all me – no co-creator, no collaboration, no one else standing there win or lose. I have never been on my own in my life so this is the most extreme vulnerability I have ever felt apart from getting on the plane all by myself at age 22 to head overseas.

What has been your toughest obstacle and how have you overcome it?

My toughest obstacle is my mind.
I have suffered with depression and anxiety ever since my father’s death although never addressed until after I was sexually assaulted when away at school and then again when I was diagnosed with post natal depression (PND) and anxiety.
It has only been after the PND that I finally started to address my fears and traumas and the impact they have had on me.
I overcome this ever day I choose to stay and fight, every day I take another step toward breathing through and managing my anxiety and stress response, every day I take action and claim the life I want rather than accepting the one I had. Change IS possible and growth can happen as slow as it needs to.

I gain strength every day. With that strength I rediscover my power and connect with my spirit. From there I take my place in the world.

She's So Inspiring - Deb Dane

Viktor Frankl says “Those who have a ‘why’ to live, can bear with almost any ‘how.” Everyone needs a purpose, what’s yours?

My purpose is helping others truly know, love and accept themselves as they are.
We have a past, but are not our past.
We are imperfect, but that is what makes us perfect.

We are all connected and deep down the same, yet wonderfully unique- I want us to celebrate that – unique yet connected!

She's So Inspiring - Deb Dane

What are your words to live by?

Never say never!
Trust and let go!
You are enough, you do enough you give enough and you have enough!

If you could have any mentor, alive or dead, who would you choose and why?

Brene Brown. If I could have her on call I think I could be a force to be reckoned with. Her work is my salve- shame especially is the undermining force holding back so many people (myself included) who feel they are damaged or unworthy. Her books are incredible and on top of it all she seems like the nicest woman and I would love to attend a women’s retreat run by her.

If you could play hookie for a day what would be on your list to do?

I actually try to play hooky at least once a month and I escape to the beach by myself. I walk for an hour or two thinking, collecting sea glass and hearts and treasures, listening to the waves and birds. I bring some writing and / or art supplies with me. I buy coffee and some lunch. My soul is filled and my introvert heart eases as I spend those 4-5 hours alone while my kids are at school. It is a 45 minute drive each way and even if I can only stay for 1-2 hours I do it anyway.

She's So Inspiring - Deb Dane

You give so much to others, what do you do to take care of yourself?

Self care is part of my mission so I do many things- those beach visits, buying myself books and magazines I crave, working on my positive self talk, asking for help when I need it, spending time with my family and dogs, investing in kinesiology sessions every 3 -4 weeks for my mind, body and soul.

Thank you for sharing, Deb.

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